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The One That Got Away

“Some people are going to leave, but that’s not the end of your story. That’s the end of their part of your story.”

You can forgive someone who truly broke your heart but you can’t forget the pain that once tore you apart.

Let me share you a good example of a good or bad KARMA about my worst long distance break up.

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Before Shaun, I’ve had a few serious online dates. I dated someone online from Kentucky last December 2014. Let’s call him Mr. R. He supported me unconditionally. We promised to meet but it never happened due to financial issue. His parents were both dead and have to take care of his 3 adopted siblings. We loved each other and chatted for a year until i became impatient then we keep arguing about meeting each other. I knew the situation and i lose hope that we will meet one day. The feeling that i had for him is slowly disappearing.

I secretly signed up to Filipinocupid and chatted some guys while waiting for a good chance to break up with Mr. R.

(I knew my fault. It was really unfair for Mr. R and this is literraly cheating. I knew it very well why i totally accepted what i experienced after. I have my reasons why it happened. )

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After days of secretly chatting online, i found Mr. D. He is from Ohio last January 2016. He was turning 27 and i was 25 that time. He got an injury and no work at that time but got his own savings and own house. He was on that site to find someone to marry. A good looking guy, friendly to talk with, family oriented and determined to accomplished any goals in life. Who wouldn’t fall for that?

We talked and video called everyday about anything then fell in love with each other. Then I finally took the courage to break up with Mr. R. He was hurt, mad and i understand him. It’s only normal to feel that way. He begged me to stay our online relationship but i don’t want to stay because i felt pity. Mr. R is a good guy and i only wished he found the happiness he deserves.
I blocked him and focus on Mr. D.

As for Mr. D. Our relationships were good at first but months later we had these misunderstanding that lead to huge arguments then broke up. On and off. It’s been going on throughout the year of dating.

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I loved him and i knew he loved me. May be, we were not matured enough to deal with small misunderstandings. We know how hard to deal with arguments if you’re in a long distance relationship.

Then one day, i though it was a happy day for me and Mr. D, he suddenly dropped the bomb. That really changed me and i almost lost myself. You can call me pathetic or whatever but it really happened to me. I checked my phone to see if he messaged. He sent me a photo of him and this girl sitted on his lap. They were happy. He never said anything but the photo said it all.

All along, while we were happily chatting or video calling, he was dating someone else in Ohio. A thirty six years old Filipina with two sons and separated. She was a nurse there. Mr. D told me this after confessing.

He said, he was with his friends drinking then one of his friend has a Filipina girlfriend who brings other Filipina girls. Where he met this girl.

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Karma? Yes. I deserved it for what i did to Mr. R. I knew then how it feels to be hurt like hell. I thought of suicide. I lose interest of everything and even my work was affected. I begged him many times to continue what we had. I lose confidence i was once had. I keep asking God why. I keep asking Mr. D why. It’s unbearable.

All i did is loving him in any way i know. I even sent him a package that he threw after we broke up. He admitted it.

God knows how i was that time. I don’t blame Mr. D because i think i deserve it. It was hard and it took time before i finally accepted the fact it’s gone.

I already forgive him but i couldn’t forget the pain. It serves as a reminder to my future relationship.

When i finally let him go, i told him that, if he replace me with that girl, i wish they would end uo together. Hope that she love him just like i did. Right now, Mr. D is happily married to that girl. As for Mr. R, I don’t know anymore. But i wish him all the best and may he find the happiness he deserves.

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You can break down a woman temporarily, but a real woman will always pick up the pieces, rebuild herself, and come back stronger than ever.

I learned not to expect anything. I learned not to attach myself to someone. Just go with the flow as they say. But something i can’t change is who i am as a person. I can’t stop looking for love. I still give everything. Give all my effort without asking something in return. When you’re badly hurt, you won’t be afraid to try again because you know how it already feels. You won’t afraid of anything because you’ve been there.

It really change me somehow and i thank what had happened because of that i found my happiness. I learned to trust slowly. I matured. And find new love that i truly deserve – Shaun.

My Craziest Online Dating Experience

“Good advice comes from bad experiences.”

I totally agree 101%.
I remember after my first online dating experience, i kinda feel addicted chatting to guys online. For me, it is the most convenient and easiest way to find a friend or a boyfriend.

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It was through Facebook that i had this very bad experiences in online dating. That time, there were many Facebook groups appearing on my suggestion list. Mostly, dating grouped from all over the world.

I met Steve Hunt from UK dating group in Facebook. He is very handsome in the photos. Remember that my phone is not advance and i can not video call. So we only chatted everyday until he became my boyfriend online.

Here are my stupid indicators before to determine how legit my chatmate was:

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– check if the Facebook account is old or new (if new, he’s probably a poser)
– check the number of photos uploaded as well as the date it was uploaded
– check if the people on his list, if mostly girls or if he has friends or family

I never insisted on video calling him because hd was very nice to me and he never asked me also. So i thought, he is genuine and really serious with me.

But, when he uploaded a photo, a girl called him babe and that girl told me he was his girlfriend. Not just one, but many girls. I was furious because for how many months, i never suspected him. I always trust him.

It’s not the only thing i found out, i also discovered all the photos were fake! For how many years he was using someone else’s face to lure girls.

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Lastly, this grosses me much. When i busted him for lying, he admitted he’s an old, divorce man with kids! Thinking of our sweet messages and the photos made me sick very much! I even made lots lf enemies online because of him! Of course, I’m not too despicable not to let the girls know. Whether they believe me or not. I just did my part as a woman.

Sorry for my reaction when i learned who he really was because i am too young to date an old man!

I got fooled many times and i swore that time, I’ll never get catfished again by these guys. So i set a new rules for myself before dating someone.

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At the end of the day, i can only smile and raise my head because i did my best and I’m always honest with my date.

Remember this qoute:

Realize that life isn’t always fair. Accept what you must, and change what you can.

Where To Find The Right One Online!

“It’s so easy to fall in love but hard to find someone who will catch you.”

I sometimes wonder how singles ever manage to date someone from afar or how couples survive long distance relationship before the popularity of online dating sites, apps, social media or even before email.

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I know, most of us are thankful for the technology we have today. It made our life easier to communicate with our loved ones accross continents in ways that would have been unthinkable even just a decade ago. Most people nowadays are thankful to meet their significant others online!

This topic inspires me to share my opinion from my personal experiences due to many friends who are interested in knowing where Shaun and I met. I can totally relate since I’ve been in their position before.

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Most dating sites and apps works the same. I even recognized some familiar faces. May be they are having a hard time as well searching for the right one.
But seriously, I’ve been a member of various sites for the reason, I haven’t found a good one to search for. May be if only use correctly, it would have been easy to all of us.


Facebook – this is the popular one to search for. You can find pages or groups then start talking to someone. Two things I hated with this app, first, perverts are everywhere and next, lots of cheaters. Because you can message anyone. Seriously, as in seriously same goes to other apps. This is cheap almost costless, accessible but not much reliable for me. Well, others are lucky to find true love here. I even met my first online boyfriend from this app. He’s from London. And because this is facebook, he doesn’t trust me and find someone else. Not my loss actually.

Facebook to fakebook to fakelove. Same goes to other apps. You can download the dating app and register as a free member. But, enable to chat others, you need to pay or deal with many advertisements.

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In my opinion, dating websites is still the best one to find love. Why? Because someone is willing to pay in order to search for love. It symbolizes how true he really is in finding the right one. If a member found his/her partner, he/she can cancel the subscription anytime or even deactivated the account.

My Boyfriend is a member of filipinocupid site that’s why I can message him. In hundreds of girls chatting him, he chose me. So I’m very lucky. 🙂

Though, each of us can find love in unexpected way or place. Sometimes, we just go with the flow of life and let this takes you anywhere.

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Don’t waste your time, effort and money. Think of a good place where you can find the love of your life. The crucial part to remember is be smart in dating someone online you won’t easily be fooled if you are wise. Whether it’s the site, app or social media media. You can talk with anyone freely but don’t easily give your trust.

The choice is yours.

Avoid These Five Types of People on Online Dating Sites

STOP CHATTING if you notice some signals. Not only you save your time and effort, but also to save yourself from getting hurt.

I have been in online dating for almost 6 years now and I experienced a lot before I found my boyfriend. So I want to personally share these tips for aspiring singles who dare to seek love online.

These LDR tips I am going to share are based from my personal experiences. 

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1. Beware of FAKE PROFILES. Admit it. Good pictures usually caught our attention first before we check through the details. Even the if the pictures are not good enough but a good background attracts us. They use fake identities which I completely understand why – for good and bad purposes.

We know that being pretty or handsome still top of our list so people will try everything to make themselves look better. And I am not exempted to this because I love filter apps but not to the extent it will totally change my appearance.

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I really hate poser account. A guy from UK chatted me in facebook before. He is handsome alright. I never demanded a video call because my phone was not advance. So I am contented with sharing photos and chatting with him. In our 3 mos of dating, he confessed. He said it was not him. So I felt very nervous that time. But when he sent me his real pictures with sign in it. I like him even more. Because the real him is more handsome. He is not confident enough. I can not understand how guys look themselves in the mirror. Anyway, it is still bad to use other people’s images.

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This one is the weirdest among fake profiles. Chatting to a guy without knowing it’s a girl and vice versa. Really creepy. For example scenario, try watching Tulfo in Action on YouTube.

2. NO VIDEO CALL. Thanks for cheap phones that we all can afford to communicate easily. So I can see no reason to be fooled by these catfishes. Still, there are some who are victimized. Because fake people tend to be good at chatting and great for making alibis not to video call. Super signal.

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3. SCAMMER.

The type we all are familiar with. Whether it is a guy or a girl. It is the same. Asking for money to random people who you do not know or to someone you chatted as your victim is a signal. Please ununderstand that these people work hard for their money too. Search for it and you will read lots of scam stories. The most common alibi they use is a sick family member.

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4.PERVERT ALERT. 

Okay let’s not be hypocrites here. Some of us are willing to share our sexy photos to our online dates including me but if they tend to ask beyond of what you can share like asking for nudes then block that person right away. Some guys randomly asks for naked pictures after few talks. So annoying.

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5. PSYCHO. 

This one is the hardest to determine especially in chatting. I even chatted someone who calls me a psycho. What?! Just because I am arguing with him does not define me for being one. This signal pertains to rapists,killers,ill people so be careful. I can not personally say how but I read and watch news a lot. My only experience of talking to a psycho is that I chatted this guy before then it was like talking to different person. His mood swing is very extreme. We argued a lot in chat so I stop.

That’s all. Share some opinion in the comments below!

Photo credits to google images.

How To Create An Outstanding Online Dating Profile

“It takes time to get to know someone. But when you do, it’s so f* worth it!”

Creating a dating profile is very easy. But making it stand out is difficult.

Yes, because I’ve been there. I joined many dating sites or dating apps and they are almost the same when making your dating profile. Eventually, i learned it myself how to make it effective.

Fortunately, I have some tips to help you create an exceptional profile that will make you stand out from other singles on the site.

1. Photos
Chosing the right photos is the first step. Usually, some dating sites allows us to put maximum of 5 photos. What i did is i put five different photos of myself. A photo in my corporate attire, casual, bikini on the beach, with friends and dress. For me, posting different photos of myself showcasing what i look like in different aspects. It sometimes reveals about who we are. So we have to be careful what photos we show as it will create a positive or negative approach from our prospect dates.

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2. Hobbies
Before i message someone, i take time to read his profile. Because it gives me idea how to communicate with him.
People want to see how they can interact with you. So take time to write the things about you including the activities you do.

3. Preferences
Some dating sites are paid but free to register. The reason we pay or register is because we want to find our partner. We do not want our time, money and effort go to waste. So indicate the type of person you want to date. It is not a crime to be selective. Online dating helps us to find that ideal person we want to be as partner. Like, single, never married, no kids, don’t smoke, etc,etc.

4. Description
This is only limited and some people do not actually read long paragraphs. That means you need a couple sentences why you’re a good catch. As for me, i am naturally a funny person and hate dull moments so i tell a joke and state an embarrassing moment of myself. A partner with good sense of humor is vital in relationships. Don’t force but be natural. It only takes one to make a great relationship.

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5. Honesty
Don’t be ashamed to show your flaws. Because no matter how pretty pictures you put into your profile, it is not enough to find the right one. These include the age, name, location, apppearances or about yourself. You don’t have to put everything but enough to let them think you are genuine.

Remember, dating profile is only the first step in finding the right date. But it means nothing if you can’t communicate well with someone. Communication is like the fuel in online dating, without it, it’ll stop moving.

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