A New Beginning with Shaun : LDR First Meeting

Love stories are wonderful. They are priceless. For others, mine was not extraordinary but for me, my story was the best thing that had happened to me.

I want to share my story to inspire others on how i found love online. I want them not to cease believing that love can be found in a hopeless state.

My name is Angel, my boyfriend is Shaun and this is our story!

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About Us

I’ve been in a long distance relationship journey since 2014 and all ended in pain. Funny thing was, I never meet any of them in real life. I know you will ask why foreign men and believe me I know what some of you are thinking. I never have any Filipino boyfriend. That’s a fact. I also had Filipino crushes but none of them like me and those who like me never caught my interest. I guess, we all have that kind of preferences when it comes to finding your perfect match. I always fancy white guys with blue, gray or green eyes. I am a huge fan of foreign movies and fairytale stories. May be that’s the reason why I like foreign men. Tall, white guy, beautiful eyes. I am not a racist but it’s my ideal guy.

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Shaun, on the other hand, was not also very lucky when it comes to relationship as well. He said he does not like some New Zealand girls by their attitude. Though, he had a Kiwi ex girlfriend before me and never had any Filipina. It only lasted for weeks. Now, he decided to go for a vacation and found his someone special. Took him awhile to decide. I was his first ever long distance girlfriend and i am happy to know that.

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A wish

As i shared on my previous blogs, before Shaun, i had this long distance chatmate which i fell in live with. I’m still moving on that time when i decided to try once more.

As i cried once again that night, i prayed and made a wish. I said, “Lord, just make me happy this valentines day and help me find a date. I promise that if this one doesn’t work out, i will not date anyone anymore. But if this works out, i promise he will be the last date i will ever have.”

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How we met

I met Shaun from FilipinoCupid site. It was before February 10, 2017 when i decided to sign up again and find a date. As i prayed to date one in Valentines day and make myself happy.

I never thought he will respond to my messages. Yes! I initiated the meeting. Since, I read in his profile that he was here in the Philippines for vacation and to find his someone special.

But surprisingly, he agreed. He’s already in Philippines for a week before we met.

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First Meeting

To be honest, this wasn’t the first i met someone online and have dinner with or talk in person. Though, i must admit, after meeting, the guy rarely talk to me after that. It really puts my confidence to a lower level.

I was nervous. I can’t explain what to feel at the moment since i woke up that morning. I was busy thinking how to act infront of him. What to wear. What will happen after that day.

I’m on my way while he messages me that his already there waiting at Greenbelt. I answered him that I’m almost there then he messaged me the exact location.

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Although, I already knew what he looks like but I’m super nervous that he will saw me first and will decide not to meet me after all.

I was in a little bridge in Greenbelt Makati when he messaged me where I was. I told him that I’m near then he said he’s looking at me. I panicked and my heart beats so fast when I saw this handsome guy waiting for me at the end of the bridge. He has standing there with this big smile on his face and literally my heart skips a bit and I could not find the exact words to say.

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We ended up eating at Chateau Restaurant. To ease my nervousness I initiated the conversation and I noticed that he talks a lot like me, so I feel comfortable then we talked a lot of things. In one night, we talked like we know each other for a long time.

Like he said, you can even fall in love on a first date. And I did!

Our first ever photos together:

After that night, I never thought he will continue chatting me and spend the rest of his vacation with me.


I never thought it’s a sign that he chose me. He never formally asked me to be his girlfriend. But we are happy.


And that happiness will stay for as long as we feel the same way.

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There were sings that we are meant to be:

  • Wish – Broken and crying in the dark, I whisper that whoever asked me on a date will be my last date. If it won’t work then I will stop dating anymore.
  • Age – I filtered my search preferences on filipinocupid to age 27-33 only. That time, I think 35 above is already old for my age 26. Shaun put age 31 on his profile (check the photo). Only to find out he is turning 36 that time.If he put his real age,then, I would never ever meet Shaun.
  • Options – Shaun told me, there are lots of girls messaging him. He said he get a hundreds every day. I asked him why me. Just wondering. He said I am cute, lol.
    And I think he chose great! 😀
  • Ex date – when Shaun arrived here in Philippines, he dated a girl. I appreciate the honesty there. But he dumped her because she showed some attitude according to Shaun. I never asked anymore and that is not important anyway. Her loss, my gain. If she is the right one, then I wouldn’t met Shaun.
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Shaun on the other side hand, told me that if not for his mothers first stroke we won’t ever met.

He said, years back, he was jobless, no savings and his mother’s stroke triggered him to find a job and save. He managed to go on a vacation aftert that where he met me.

Now, both of our dating accounts were deactivated. We are still in a long distance right now and only waiting for the result of our visa application.

We don’t love each other since first meeting. We build friendship because we like each other, respect each other, and that’s how we found love. 

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When it’s time for souls to meet, there’s nothing on earth that can prevent them from meeting. No matter where each may be located.”

The One That Got Away

“Some people are going to leave, but that’s not the end of your story. That’s the end of their part of your story.”

You can forgive someone who truly broke your heart but you can’t forget the pain that once tore you apart.

Let me share you a good example of a good or bad KARMA about my worst long distance break up.

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Before Shaun, I’ve had a few serious online dates. I dated someone online from Kentucky last December 2014. Let’s call him Mr. R. He supported me unconditionally. We promised to meet but it never happened due to financial issue. His parents were both dead and have to take care of his 3 adopted siblings. We loved each other and chatted for a year until i became impatient then we keep arguing about meeting each other. I knew the situation and i lose hope that we will meet one day. The feeling that i had for him is slowly disappearing.

I secretly signed up to Filipinocupid and chatted some guys while waiting for a good chance to break up with Mr. R.

(I knew my fault. It was really unfair for Mr. R and this is literraly cheating. I knew it very well why i totally accepted what i experienced after. I have my reasons why it happened. )

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After days of secretly chatting online, i found Mr. D. He is from Ohio last January 2016. He was turning 27 and i was 25 that time. He got an injury and no work at that time but got his own savings and own house. He was on that site to find someone to marry. A good looking guy, friendly to talk with, family oriented and determined to accomplished any goals in life. Who wouldn’t fall for that?

We talked and video called everyday about anything then fell in love with each other. Then I finally took the courage to break up with Mr. R. He was hurt, mad and i understand him. It’s only normal to feel that way. He begged me to stay our online relationship but i don’t want to stay because i felt pity. Mr. R is a good guy and i only wished he found the happiness he deserves.
I blocked him and focus on Mr. D.

As for Mr. D. Our relationships were good at first but months later we had these misunderstanding that lead to huge arguments then broke up. On and off. It’s been going on throughout the year of dating.

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I loved him and i knew he loved me. May be, we were not matured enough to deal with small misunderstandings. We know how hard to deal with arguments if you’re in a long distance relationship.

Then one day, i though it was a happy day for me and Mr. D, he suddenly dropped the bomb. That really changed me and i almost lost myself. You can call me pathetic or whatever but it really happened to me. I checked my phone to see if he messaged. He sent me a photo of him and this girl sitted on his lap. They were happy. He never said anything but the photo said it all.

All along, while we were happily chatting or video calling, he was dating someone else in Ohio. A thirty six years old Filipina with two sons and separated. She was a nurse there. Mr. D told me this after confessing.

He said, he was with his friends drinking then one of his friend has a Filipina girlfriend who brings other Filipina girls. Where he met this girl.

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Karma? Yes. I deserved it for what i did to Mr. R. I knew then how it feels to be hurt like hell. I thought of suicide. I lose interest of everything and even my work was affected. I begged him many times to continue what we had. I lose confidence i was once had. I keep asking God why. I keep asking Mr. D why. It’s unbearable.

All i did is loving him in any way i know. I even sent him a package that he threw after we broke up. He admitted it.

God knows how i was that time. I don’t blame Mr. D because i think i deserve it. It was hard and it took time before i finally accepted the fact it’s gone.

I already forgive him but i couldn’t forget the pain. It serves as a reminder to my future relationship.

When i finally let him go, i told him that, if he replace me with that girl, i wish they would end uo together. Hope that she love him just like i did. Right now, Mr. D is happily married to that girl. As for Mr. R, I don’t know anymore. But i wish him all the best and may he find the happiness he deserves.

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You can break down a woman temporarily, but a real woman will always pick up the pieces, rebuild herself, and come back stronger than ever.

I learned not to expect anything. I learned not to attach myself to someone. Just go with the flow as they say. But something i can’t change is who i am as a person. I can’t stop looking for love. I still give everything. Give all my effort without asking something in return. When you’re badly hurt, you won’t be afraid to try again because you know how it already feels. You won’t afraid of anything because you’ve been there.

It really change me somehow and i thank what had happened because of that i found my happiness. I learned to trust slowly. I matured. And find new love that i truly deserve – Shaun.

Avoid These Five Types of People on Online Dating Sites

STOP CHATTING if you notice some signals. Not only you save your time and effort, but also to save yourself from getting hurt.

I have been in online dating for almost 6 years now and I experienced a lot before I found my boyfriend. So I want to personally share these tips for aspiring singles who dare to seek love online.

These LDR tips I am going to share are based from my personal experiences. 

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1. Beware of FAKE PROFILES. Admit it. Good pictures usually caught our attention first before we check through the details. Even the if the pictures are not good enough but a good background attracts us. They use fake identities which I completely understand why – for good and bad purposes.

We know that being pretty or handsome still top of our list so people will try everything to make themselves look better. And I am not exempted to this because I love filter apps but not to the extent it will totally change my appearance.

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I really hate poser account. A guy from UK chatted me in facebook before. He is handsome alright. I never demanded a video call because my phone was not advance. So I am contented with sharing photos and chatting with him. In our 3 mos of dating, he confessed. He said it was not him. So I felt very nervous that time. But when he sent me his real pictures with sign in it. I like him even more. Because the real him is more handsome. He is not confident enough. I can not understand how guys look themselves in the mirror. Anyway, it is still bad to use other people’s images.

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This one is the weirdest among fake profiles. Chatting to a guy without knowing it’s a girl and vice versa. Really creepy. For example scenario, try watching Tulfo in Action on YouTube.

2. NO VIDEO CALL. Thanks for cheap phones that we all can afford to communicate easily. So I can see no reason to be fooled by these catfishes. Still, there are some who are victimized. Because fake people tend to be good at chatting and great for making alibis not to video call. Super signal.

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3. SCAMMER.

The type we all are familiar with. Whether it is a guy or a girl. It is the same. Asking for money to random people who you do not know or to someone you chatted as your victim is a signal. Please ununderstand that these people work hard for their money too. Search for it and you will read lots of scam stories. The most common alibi they use is a sick family member.

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4.PERVERT ALERT. 

Okay let’s not be hypocrites here. Some of us are willing to share our sexy photos to our online dates including me but if they tend to ask beyond of what you can share like asking for nudes then block that person right away. Some guys randomly asks for naked pictures after few talks. So annoying.

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5. PSYCHO. 

This one is the hardest to determine especially in chatting. I even chatted someone who calls me a psycho. What?! Just because I am arguing with him does not define me for being one. This signal pertains to rapists,killers,ill people so be careful. I can not personally say how but I read and watch news a lot. My only experience of talking to a psycho is that I chatted this guy before then it was like talking to different person. His mood swing is very extreme. We argued a lot in chat so I stop.

That’s all. Share some opinion in the comments below!

Photo credits to google images.

How To Create An Outstanding Online Dating Profile

“It takes time to get to know someone. But when you do, it’s so f* worth it!”

Creating a dating profile is very easy. But making it stand out is difficult.

Yes, because I’ve been there. I joined many dating sites or dating apps and they are almost the same when making your dating profile. Eventually, i learned it myself how to make it effective.

Fortunately, I have some tips to help you create an exceptional profile that will make you stand out from other singles on the site.

1. Photos
Chosing the right photos is the first step. Usually, some dating sites allows us to put maximum of 5 photos. What i did is i put five different photos of myself. A photo in my corporate attire, casual, bikini on the beach, with friends and dress. For me, posting different photos of myself showcasing what i look like in different aspects. It sometimes reveals about who we are. So we have to be careful what photos we show as it will create a positive or negative approach from our prospect dates.

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2. Hobbies
Before i message someone, i take time to read his profile. Because it gives me idea how to communicate with him.
People want to see how they can interact with you. So take time to write the things about you including the activities you do.

3. Preferences
Some dating sites are paid but free to register. The reason we pay or register is because we want to find our partner. We do not want our time, money and effort go to waste. So indicate the type of person you want to date. It is not a crime to be selective. Online dating helps us to find that ideal person we want to be as partner. Like, single, never married, no kids, don’t smoke, etc,etc.

4. Description
This is only limited and some people do not actually read long paragraphs. That means you need a couple sentences why you’re a good catch. As for me, i am naturally a funny person and hate dull moments so i tell a joke and state an embarrassing moment of myself. A partner with good sense of humor is vital in relationships. Don’t force but be natural. It only takes one to make a great relationship.

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5. Honesty
Don’t be ashamed to show your flaws. Because no matter how pretty pictures you put into your profile, it is not enough to find the right one. These include the age, name, location, apppearances or about yourself. You don’t have to put everything but enough to let them think you are genuine.

Remember, dating profile is only the first step in finding the right date. But it means nothing if you can’t communicate well with someone. Communication is like the fuel in online dating, without it, it’ll stop moving.

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